DeMora – “Enjoy your youth. You’ll never be younger than you are at this very moment.”

When this blog first came to my mind, I honestly wasn’t sure what to write about. Between work, school, and a social life, it seems far too “normal” or “boring” to be a true struggle. But then I really started thinking… “What’s it like to be 20 years old in today’s society?” And that my friends, is when I realized the one struggle we all face at different points in our lives… The struggle to fit in.

Now, I’m not here to talk about how people judge you in life, no matter who you are and blah, blah, blah. But something really stood out to me about this. There’s always competition, and there’s always people in your life that will want to be better than you or that will treat you differently for who you are.

I’m going to be honest, I never thought being 20 years old would be the way it truly is. I always found it to be like it is in the movies; Exciting, adventurous, and so much more. I’m not saying my whole life was built around how it was in the movies. Because if that were the case, my entire high school experience would be a lie, according to High School Musical. However, I used to admire movies about girls in college, and what they would do. I always thought, “That will be me one day.” But in reality, I’m far from it.

College, for me, is not what they show you in movies, or even TV, in some ways. With the dorms, the parties, the interesting courses.. it all seemed fun. But college for me, is more about education and making something of yourself. There class after class, homework, papers, exams. And when you add work into your daily routine, who has time for a social life? This is definitely not what I thought it was going to be.

But, I’m okay with it. I’ve accepted that college isn’t exactly all fun and games. It’s a challenge, but a good challenge. It’s a thrill ride to your future.

But, where does the “fitting in” come to play? Well, let’s look at what most kids in college do.. Partying. It’s the most known thing of all college students. And what do most of them do at parties? They drink. Whether they’re 18 or 24, mostly every college student seen at a party will drink alcohol. But me, no thank you. I’m not into that. It doesn’t interest me, nor will it ever. I’m not 21 years old yet, but I don’t even plan on going out at midnight, or any time during my birthday to a bar to have my first “legal drink”. That’s where I don’t fit in. At times I feel isolated from friends because all they ever want to do is go out to bars and drink. Although I cannot do so yet, even when I can, I wouldn’t want to. They believe that’s the only way to have a good time. Well, I’m here to tell you, you don’t need alcohol to have fun.

There are far more ways to have fun in your twenties than drinking. Sure, they may seem like things you can do in high school, but in your twenties, you have more leeway. You don’t have to go to mom & dad about everything. You can venture off on your own with friends, and go out on adventures with them without question. There’s the fun.

It may be weird that this is the first topic I chose to talk about, but with my birthday coming up soon, I felt it appropriate, for me. Sure, being 21 and “legal” is great, but it isn’t all there is to being in your twenties. And I’m 100% okay with that. Who says you have to go out to parties and bars every weekend? Why go out when you can stay home with your best friends, binge watching movies or shows on Netflix, while gorging yourself in your favorite snacks. Sure, that’s a little boring and cliche in today’s day and age, but it can still be something better than getting drunk every Saturday night, and waking up with a hangover, just in time for work Sunday.

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4 Comments

  1. I’m glad to know I am not the only one who isn’t interested in the drinking scene even when I turn 21. Your topic is very relevant to what I’d like to think many of us fellow 20 year olds are experiencing. Props for keeping it real!

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  2. I am so glad you brought up the whole issue of fitting in and drinking. Speaking for myself I am or was, one of those college students who would drink every other weekend. My group of friends are those who think that without drinking they would not have fun, but what they don’t see is that you don’t have to get “wasted” to have the time of your life. What’s the whole point of getting crazy drunk when the next day you have to face the fact of waking up to a hangover. I personally have changed my drinking habits, I no longer find it “cool” or “fun” to get a hangover every time I drink. I would lay in bed all day long letting the hours pass by me wishing I didn’t drink the night before. So why keep doing this to myself. Now,I am 22 years old so drinking is not a big deal as it might be for you. 🙂

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  3. I love this! Esp since I was a “serious” student as an undergrad too. I hated frat parties and drinking with morons and I have to admit, sadly, I was lonely. So, yeah, I am with you!

    Okay, but I’m responding here because you tweeted a concern, so here I am to tell you if this is what I am looking for. Here it is, the good, bad, and ugly.

    First, the good: I love the personal nature of this and I think your struggle is one from which others will benefit when they read it! The bad (although I hate that word. Not bad, just room for improvement, but anyway…): I’m not sure you fulfill the following part of the assignment: “1 [post] should be informed by texts that you find online: discuss what is presented in this “outside text” in terms of the Web 2.0-related theme,” which I’ve copied and pasted from the Blog Assignment Page on our website. But back to the good: I see at least one place where you can reference specific sites, which is where you discuss how college is portrayed in the media. You could additionaly cite/share/discuss a specific article/blog that explores a similar theme as yours, that speaks to your concerns. This could function as an example of how the Web offers a more “democratic” and perhaps more representative experience for people, esp young people – outside of the frat/party girl scenario with which we are so inundated in the media.

    Okay, and I don’t see anything ugly, but mostly I have to run to take my kids to dance and baseball now.

    peace out!

    Let me know if I can answer any Qs or address any concerns!

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  4. Sorry for re-commenting, Sara! Saw we have to have 50-100 words per comment and mine was 46. Just my luck! Nonetheless, your post is worth spending additional time on. What I like most about your piece is the fact you related it to your own life. I don’t think we can talk about a struggle without giving the reader personal accounts. I’m with you on not being part of the drinking scene. Never have and I don’t think I ever will. It’s just not my idea of a “good time”. From what I’ve seen over the years, most people drink to feel older. The truth is, like you said, you’ll never be younger than you are at this very moment. Why rush to grow up? Why get trashed to feel awful in the morning? Why make a memory faded by being intoxicated? There are so many other options to go about your teens, 20’s, and past 30’s. I hope you celebrate your birthday with good friends, good food, good times and whatever you want to drink… I recommend a Nutella milkshake!

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